Thread: What happens in your life - Come in and share!

My day is so boring and unfulfilling, so I'm here folks. Listening to Telemann, who I'm currently somewhat obsessed with.

Originally Posted by clavichorder

The only way I can relate is that sucky feeling I felt after my various summer camps, where I met people that I still remember and think about to this day, they may have only been two or three week camps, but its probably a similar feeling to what you are having to deal with. However, you are very fortunate to have had so many close people, as I'm sure I am. Can't help but be a bit jealous that I've never had the privilege of even living with other young people though. My late bloomer angst aside, I'm sorry for this source of pain and can relate in my way.

Yes, I have definitely felt that way when leaving camps as well. I think any situation when you are put in an unfamiliar place where there is no one you know is rather emotionally intense and forces you to form attachments very quickly. I had to get close to people here, even though I knew our time together was brief, because everyone I was already close to was far away and I wouldn't see them for awhile. It's been similar when I've gone to camps, even though it's a shorter time.

I'm sure you'll live with other young people at some point. In my experience, though, it can sometimes be more stressful than living with family - home ceases to be a place where you can escape from the frustrations of peer relationships. I feel like I have to keep up appearances (of being a hip 21-year-old or something, I don't know) around my roommates in a way that I don't with my family.

Originally Posted by Meaghan

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I'm sure you'll live with other young people at some point. In my experience, though, it can sometimes be more stressful than living with family - home ceases to be a place where you can escape from the frustrations of peer relationships. I feel like I have to keep up appearances (of being a hip 21-year-old or something, I don't know) around my roommates in a way that I don't with my family.

If any of you young folks want the experience of "living with other young people", you could consider joining the army, air force, or marines or navy if your country has those.

Originally Posted by Hilltroll72

If any of you young folks want the experience of "living with other young people", you could consider joining the army, air force, or marines or navy if your country has those.

Is there a healthy alternative?

Sick for the first time in over a year! Yuk....

Originally Posted by ComposerOfAvantGarde

Is there a healthy alternative?

There is also college.

If I were young enough again, I would join the military. I considered the marines out of high school, because I wanted to know if I could cut it. Now I know there's no way I could.

I could never join those branches. I just do not get along with those types typically. It would be living hell for me, basically.

Originally Posted by Cnote11

I could never join those branches. I just do not get along with those types typically. It would be living hell for me, basically.

A large percentage of 'those types' in the US military are blacks from low income families... and most of the others are whites from low income families. Poorly educated, even if if they are high school grads. Still, 'getting along' with them should be easy enough - if your mouth is under reasonable control from your brain.

Originally Posted by Meaghan

There is also college.

In the US that is seldom an alternative. College costs $$.

Originally Posted by Hilltroll72

In the US that is seldom an alternative. College costs $$.

Yes, you are right that college is not equally available to everyone. It is possible to go if you/your family don't make a lot of money (most of my tuition, for instance, is paid by need-based financial aid), but not for everyone, and I do realize that factors other than "scholastic aptitude" play a role in determining who goes. Problematic, to be sure, but not necessarily to be ruled out, if it's what you want.

COAG isn't in the US, though - I don't know what the university system is like in Australia.

Originally Posted by Hilltroll72

A large percentage of 'those types' in the US military are blacks from low income families... and most of the others are whites from low income families. Poorly educated, even if if they are high school grads. Still, 'getting along' with them should be easy enough - if your mouth is under reasonable control from your brain.

Getting along with people isn't just external, but also internal. One can keep up appearances without getting along. Apparently external is all that matters to you, or at least to the military. I wouldn't want to be near these types as I loathe their attitudes. Also, there is a large faction of middle class whites in those branches as well. This is all beside the point. I simply do not like being around these types whatsoever on the average basis.

Originally Posted by Meaghan

Yes, you are right that college is not equally available to everyone. It is possible to go if you/your family don't make a lot of money (most of my tuition, for instance, is paid by need-based financial aid), but not for everyone, and I do realize that factors other than "scholastic aptitude" play a role in determining who goes. Problematic, to be sure, but not necessarily to be ruled out, if it's what you want.

COAG isn't in the US, though - I don't know what the university system is like in Australia.

Sid has offered a cursory description. I don't know what the Australian military is like for the lower enlisted ranks, either. In the countries some of our members call home, the military is a hard way to go for 2 square meals and a place to sleep.

Originally Posted by Meaghan

Yes, you are right that college is not equally available to everyone. It is possible to go if you/your family don't make a lot of money (most of my tuition, for instance, is paid by need-based financial aid), but not for everyone, and I do realize that factors other than "scholastic aptitude" play a role in determining who goes. Problematic, to be sure, but not necessarily to be ruled out, if it's what you want.

COAG isn't in the US, though - I don't know what the university system is like in Australia.

Most people in the United States can go to college. There is such thing as financial aid and two-year colleges. If you're from a low-income family you WILL get a complete free ride for tuition and books and then some. The problem isn't really with opportunities, but rather with interference issues for performance.

Hmm... I know kids who want to go to college and who work hard who really do not have good odds of going, for reasons that do involve opportunity. I had classmates in high school who didn't manage to graduate because, due to their family's financial situation, they had to spend a lot of time working or taking care of younger siblings while their parents worked. I also have friends who were forced to drop out of community college because they needed to work full time. Not everybody gets taken care of. Their are differences in opportunities that will inevitably screw some folks over.

If you're from a low-income family, you might get a complete free ride for tuition and books, probably without the "and then some" (I've never heard of anybody making a direct profit off going to college). "WILL" is a little naive.