Something that has always bothered me is the general attitude I find amongst many in the classical music world, that if I listen to and enjoy classical music, then I must be a musician of some sort, or if I'm not a musician then I can't really "appreciate" classical music. Maybe you can tell me that I'm just perceiving this, that it is not really true of most people who love classical music. But I haven't found much to the contrary to change my perceptions. Okay, I'm paranoid. But read on, anyway, you might find it amusing...
Maybe it's my sister's fault. She was a music major in college, and she was always telling me that I can't really appreciate music because I'm not educated in it. Meanwhile I was hard-pressed to find her ever sitting down and just listening to music. She likes the friends she meets in the music profession, she likes the stage and lights and the atmosphere surrounding the concert scene, but just closing her eyes and listening to it, I don't know if she even does that. I've never witnessed it. Maybe she does, maybe I'm wrong about her. But she's never done it in front of me.
"Oh, you like classical music? What instrument do you play?" How about I turn that around on people and say "oh, so you like movies, what production have you worked on? Obviously you can't really appreciate Godard or Bergman unless you've worked on a movie set!"
While I was in college, a music professor once told me that one needn't be able to read music in order to understand it. He made me feel better. He was but one person, though.
I almost prefer talking movies to people, because there was never the prerequisite that I had to direct a movie in order to appreciate one. But when it comes to classical music, I've often found myself feeling intimidated, because the conversations inevitably end up being about technical mumbo jumbo that I can't understand, and everyone in the group is under the assumption that it is all understood by everybody. I don't hear most discussions on movies turning into what happened at the shoot the other day. Or maybe I'd get that if I lived in L.A. or New York. I don't want to be around people who only want to talk shop.
I've been listening to classical music since I was a young teenager, so that's for more than twenty years. Do I need to know what this is called, and what that is called, to understand what is going on in a piece of music? Maybe I can't put a word to it, but doesn't one listen to music, not read it with their ears? Most illiterate people can still understand and speak a language fluently. I don't need schooling, unless I were going to play music. As it is, I get so much enjoyment being a listener, and if it wasn't for us types, musicians would be out of a job.
And come to think of it, it's a bit of an insult to assume that someone who listens to classical music is a musician--as though one wouldn't listen to it unless it were work-related. Like they have to, you know. As a teenager, I often surprised other kids by telling them I listen to this music even when I have not been assigned to do so. "Oh no, it's not for school at all! I enjoy listening to it." "Naw!!!!" "Yes, I do! I really do! Honest!"
When I was a young teenager, nobody influenced me to listen to it. No one in my family likes it. I came to it on my own, with no help from anybody. It wasn't a means to anything by my own enjoyment.