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    Question Questions about Private Messaging

    I'm a bit confused about how (or if) I can block a certain member from Private Messaging me ~ yesterday I received a trolling & abusive PM from this person, & I don't want it to happen again. It seems that I can choose to accept PM's from everyone, or only from members on my friends/contacts list, or disable it completely; I often get unexpected PMs from people who are not (yet! ) 'friends', so I don't want to go that route. I thought that if a member was on my 'Ignore' list that maybe that would block them, but the member in question already was, & he was still able to send me a message.
    Are there any other options?
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    You could allow just contacts/friends/admin to PM you, but leave the Visitor message option open (since these are public messages). The Ignore option is a separate function.
    Last edited by dogen; Jun-26-2018 at 21:46.

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    Quote Originally Posted by laurie View Post
    I'm a bit confused about how (or if) I can block a certain member from Private Messaging me ~ yesterday I received a trolling & abusive PM from this person, & I don't want it to happen again. It seems that I can choose to accept PM's from everyone, or only from members on my friends/contacts list, or disable it completely; I often get unexpected PMs from people who are not (yet! ) 'friends', so I don't want to go that route. I thought that if a member was on my 'Ignore' list that maybe that would block them, but the member in question already was, & he was still able to send me a message.
    Are there any other options?
    I wonder if a similar PM I received yesterday was from the same person? At first I was going to ignore, then I tried to reply ("Don't know what you're talking about; don't feel you must") but it bounced back.
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    My suggestion would be to forward it to one of the moderators/administrators, who will then be able to address the issue.

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    The vBulletin FAQ shows this under "Dealing with troublesome users"

    Can I block posts, emails and messages from specific users?

    If there are particular members that bother you and you do not want to see their posts or receive Private Messages and Emails from them, then you can add these members to your 'Ignore List'. There are several ways to do this:

    Through your User Control Panel: User CP, Settings & Options, Edit Ignore List. Then, type their name into the empty text box and click 'Okay'.
    Based on recent posts, it seems as though placing someone on the ignore list may not effect PMs. I will discuss this with other moderators.
    Last edited by mmsbls; Jun-27-2018 at 16:23.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MacLeod View Post
    I wonder if a similar PM I received yesterday was from the same person? At first I was going to ignore, then I tried to reply ("Don't know what you're talking about; don't feel you must") but it bounced back.
    Same here. I also tried to reply but it’s vanished into the ether. I’m not that bothered, I’ll just delete any unwanted messages. Intriguing though, I wonder why they’re doing it?
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    what are they called "Trolls" they just sign up and bother members. or offer ads of some sort. "Bullies" thats all they are. i was on one forum for a certain software and site and the "trolls" were posting x rated sites and different ads that had nothing to do with the web site. the Moderator just closed the forum.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ldiat View Post
    . . . was on one forum for a certain software and site and the "trolls" were posting x rated sites and different ads that had nothing to do with the web site. the Moderator just closed the forum.
    Sounds like that moderator had zero administrator support ... sad state of affairs, as there are certain tools that can be employed to handle annoying ads.

    If you notice these types of ads seldom appear on this site. The ones that do are immediately deleted and the account is banned.
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    I would just like to urge a degree of empathy and compassion towards some of the posters, who have sometimes been identified as problematic. It seems clear to me that some, albeit not all, are likely suffering from a mental illness of sorts, such as depression, paranoia, extending to outright psychosis. I have formed the impression, on occasion, that this forum can provide some of these posters with a form of therapy and can be a haven of comfort and safety for them. I would like to think that the moderators and administrators do consider this possibility, when such incidents arise, and attempt to resolve the matter with the individual in a sensitive and compassionate manner so that they can continue being active members,

    I recall one particular poster, some time ago, who appeared to be somewhere on the autistic spectrum and some of the responses that he received from other posters were akin to bear baiting. Just something to bear in mind.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Templeton View Post
    I would just like to urge a degree of empathy and compassion towards some of the posters, who have sometimes been identified as problematic. It seems clear to me that some, albeit not all, are likely suffering from a mental illness of sorts, such as depression, paranoia, extending to outright psychosis. I have formed the impression, on occasion, that this forum can provide some of these posters with a form of therapy and can be a haven of comfort and safety for them. I would like to think that the moderators and administrators do consider this possibility, when such incidents arise, and attempt to resolve the matter with the individual in a sensitive and compassionate manner so that they can continue being active members,

    I recall one particular poster, some time ago, who appeared to be somewhere on the autistic spectrum and some of the responses that he received from other posters were akin to bear baiting. Just something to bear in mind.
    The moderation team does consider this possibility, and in those cases, tries to balance the interests of the TC community along with the interests of the individual.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mmsbls View Post
    The moderation team does consider this possibility, and in those cases, tries to balance the interests of the TC community along with the interests of the individual.
    Thanks for the response, mmsbls, that's reassuring and how I would have hoped things would work. One suggestion,in such cases, is that rather than banning the individual, perhaps their posts could be vetted by the admin team, for a period of time, before being made public. There are certainly a few posters, who have been banned, in the past, who might have benefited from this. Thanks again.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Templeton View Post
    Thanks for the response, mmsbls, that's reassuring and how I would have hoped things would work. One suggestion,in such cases, is that rather than banning the individual, perhaps their posts could be vetted by the admin team, for a period of time, before being made public. There are certainly a few posters, who have been banned, in the past, who might have benefited from this. Thanks again.
    That is a "technique" we have used on several occasions.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mmsbls View Post
    That is a "technique" we have used on several occasions.
    Again, very good to hear and hopefully reassures others who may, on occasion, have believed the responses from the mods to be heavy handed. Appreciate your response, thanks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Krummhorn View Post
    Sounds like that moderator had zero administrator support ... sad state of affairs, as there are certain tools that can be employed to handle annoying ads.

    If you notice these types of ads seldom appear on this site. The ones that do are immediately deleted and the account is banned.
    true the Moderator was himself and is busy with other jobs. lots of other things on the site.. thanks!
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