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    Default Do you have any friends in real life who is just as crazy about CM as you?

    Small clarification: they don't have to be just as crazy about it as you. Some of you set a high standard in that regard.

    Sometimes I feel isolated knowing that I will never be able to share my enjoyment of Mendelssohn, Mozart, etc. with somebody who enjoys it just as much as I do. In fact I would considerate it a small miracle if I can even say the name Mendelssohn without getting a puzzled look.

    So I wonder if any of you have managed to find friends--or even a spouse--who is also entrenched in this small world. Where did you meet them? How often do you talk about classical music?
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    I have a friend and a wife who will attend a concert with me (my wife is attending a complete Beethoven cycle with me this year). My kids enjoy various classical pieces and we take them to children's concerts at the CSO and in Millennium Park during the summer. My sister is listening to my collection in her office.

    But as crazy? Nope. I don't really discuss classical with anyone in person.

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    None of my family or friends are into it at all, but I'm OK with that as I knew from the onset that this was going to be a journey which I was destined to make largely alone. I enjoy this forum though, and it gives me all the interaction I want even if it's only of the cyber variety.
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    I sure do.

    A good friend is a conservatory grad and a top LA studio musician.

    We are also both fans of mid 20th century and contemporary classical, although I like a bit more tonal music than he does.

    We have many listening sessions where we play music that each of us is unfamiliar with.
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    All my friends listen to at least some classical music. But I can not really discuss it with them.

    Over a couple of years I managed to get my best friend from not knowing even the Overture 1812 to discussing Anton Bruckner, Furtwaengler's Beethoven recordings, and some basic musical terminology. He is probably aware of about two dozen composers now. But we generally learn from each other and passively aquire some traits and knowledge, so that's an exception.

    I am completely fine with discussing music just on boards like this, and to people irl just being a wizard who always has a pen in a front pocket to wave a beat while walking the streets.
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    My wife would go to concerts and also has a very good ear, however I am the only one obsessed, no, possessed is a better word. That’s okay though, she let’s me ramble on and appears to listen.

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    I'm friends with a few composers, whose tastes err more towards the avant-garde than mine, but they are all fairly literate about music of the past as well. I don't personally know anyone who spends as much time listening or reading about CM as I do, if you set aside consumption for professional reasons and look only at recreational activity (I'm a musicologist).

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    I had one for a while, but he moved to Kentucky and now only listens to gospel music.

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    My brother also loves classical music, but he lives on a different continent. I did persuade him to join TC; he stayed for a very short time and moved on.
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    I know people who make a living from it, singing, writing journalism and books, a voice teacher, and composing, a répétiteur, a set designer for opera. And I have a friend who supports artists, who comes from a family which have always done that, putting them up when they give concerts, that sort of thing, some of them are now quite established. The composer is particularly inspiring, he really loves music, I mean you can see it on his face and in his body language when he listens, and the music he loves is contemporary and challenging. The rest are a bit blasé about it all, to tell the truth.

    Apart from that, I have a friend who likes opera, and we used to go very often to Covent Garden and to Glyndebourn together. Over the past few years I’ve lost interest in opera so . . . not for a while.
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    One. A professional player who is as obsessed with collecting recordings as I am. But he goes further and also collects scores like a madman. Unlike me, he kept all of his LPs. He has a modest 2500 sq ft house - the entire garage, plus two bedrooms filled with the collection. More scores line both sides of the hallway. Caused a divorce, to be honest. His kids want nothing to do with any of it.

    I am also very interested in attending live performances, travelling anywhere to hear certain concerts. He doesn't do that. Nor does anyone else I know. I have many musician friends and it always puzzles and saddens me how little interest they have in listening to anything outside the standard repertoire. They've never read a biography about a composer, conductor, or performer. In fact, several professional conductors (one really well-known) I am friends with have learned more about off-the-beaten-path music from me than any other source. I've given up on local classical FM radio hosts - they're morons with no interest in anything new.

    So yes, in many ways being a classical devotee can be a lonely existence. That's why I really enjoy going to festivals where the attendees are by and large classical fans. And it's why I miss Tower Records terribly - the guys (they were always men) who ran the classical area were also devoted fans. The wife is not a fan, neither are the kids. Their loss.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mbhaub View Post
    One. A professional player who is as obsessed with collecting recordings as I am. But he goes further and also collects scores like a madman. Unlike me, he kept all of his LPs. He has a modest 2500 sq ft house - the entire garage, plus two bedrooms filled with the collection. More scores line both sides of the hallway. Caused a divorce, to be honest. His kids want nothing to do with any of it.
    That is next-level. Does he listen to any of the records or just collect them for collection's sake?

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    I have a friend who is really into classical music. He's not into 20th century music as me but he introduced me to a lot of beautiful music. Monteverdi, Dowland, Perotin. And I feel lucky to know someone like him.
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    As crazy as myself no, but my mother likes it... Sometimes I feel a bit frustrating to not have anyone around that cares this much about CM as I do, and to find such people was one of my main reasons for having joined this forum.
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    Quote Originally Posted by level82rat View Post
    Small clarification: they don't have to be just as crazy about it as you. Some of you set a high standard in that regard.

    Sometimes I feel isolated knowing that I will never be able to share my enjoyment of Mendelssohn, Mozart, etc. with somebody who enjoys it just as much as I do. In fact I would considerate it a small miracle if I can even say the name Mendelssohn without getting a puzzled look.

    So I wonder if any of you have managed to find friends--or even a spouse--who is also entrenched in this small world. Where did you meet them? How often do you talk about classical music?
    How can you be isolated, with such good music, rather that then people pretending.
    “Never argue with an idiot. They will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.” ― Mark Twain

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