Is this a question or a complaint?
Having a map does not add or detract from my basic aesthetic enjoyment of Yellowstone Park, except in the sense that it it allows me to navigate, get into, grasp and understand the experience more efficiently. The same with music; music theory is not the art itself, but only a reference.
I suspect that this question is being asked somewhat defensively. It's the sort of question that a person already knowledgeable in music theory would probably have no motivation to ask. It's an insecure person wondering, "Am I missing something? Is my simple enjoyment of music 'as good' or 'as deep' as somebody who knows music theory?"
Well remember, the theorists had to learn it. They too were at one time clueless, and simply enjoyed music. So stop broadcasting such insecurities, get off the fence, and read a theory book. Otherwise, it sounds either insecure, or as if it is a snipe at being knowledgeable.
All aesthetic experiences are created from the same place, out of the 'stuff' of our experience. Ultimately, what makes one experience 'more valid' than any other is the person, and their accumulated experience. If you want to put this on some sort of scale, or in an arena, then you have to use certain criteria to judge this, and this criteria, while it may reflect accurately some sort of 'optimal' experience or 'optimal' person, many people will feel slighted or left out, like the suburban blues player who wants to be like Son House. An unrealistic and rather bizarre aspiration.